The legal definition of "Child" generally refers to a minor.
The parents’ roles are of the maximum importance
for the spiritual and personality development of the children.
When we pray and praise God in our children's presence
they, also, tend to learn how to talk with God.
There are all sorts of opportunities to do this
in the small, everyday activities
we enjoy together.
Parents are the first and most important teachers.
The Word of God gives us many directions and help for raising God-centered children.
Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to train our children in the way they should go and when we do this,
we will find that they will not depart from God's ways in their later years.
To train is to educate;
therefore, training a child to become God-centred implies educating them in God's ways early in life.
We are instructed to live right before God and to impart the same way of life, by example and teaching, to our children.
We are also encouraged to trust God for our day-to-day needs and demonstrate to our children that God is dependable.
We are to model a vibrant walk with God in full view of our children.
Many will say, "Do as I say, not as I do,"
expecting children to make right choices and have good manners
without having seen them practiced.
We cannot expect our children to be kind and compassionate
without having experienced kindness and compassion.
If we're not demonstrating spiritual qualities by living godly, loving lives in our homes...
how can we expect our children to?
The future of our children will be a reflection of what we model today.
The first great gift we can bestow on our childrenis a good example.
Love, self-respect, dignity, humanity,
family values, and respect for authority
has to be taught in the home.
Parents should be praying with their children,
living godly lives before them,
and teaching them about God.
Children are like little sponges.
The example of the parents affects children more than we know.
We cannot pass these responsibilities on to others or the streets.
Parents must be God-centered and child-centered.
This takes deliberate and consistent effort.
What can we do better to enrich our children?
There are many principles for parents to learn, from a Biblical perspective,
about avoiding the pitfalls in child training and to help children make positive progress in life.
According to Paul, Scripture alone is sufficient to equip us as good parents.
He says that Scripture is adequate to equip us for every good work (2 Tim. 3:16-17).
Clearly, included in God's Word are the directives for training up our children properly.
True godliness and the wisdom found in God’s Word is the key to raising children.
The Bible is our Instruction Book. It was written to teach us how to relate properly to God and to one another.
The chief responsibility of parents
is to teach and train up their children.
Parents are their children's first and most influential teachers.
School and church can have a great impact on our children,
but the primary responsibility for the spiritual nurturing and training
of our children should be acquired from parents/care-givers.
Parenting entails instilling love,
self respect, and respect for others... especially our elders.
It also entails family values, dignity, the golden rule of
"Doing unto others as they would have others do unto them."
Humanity plays a huge role in the lives of our children,
as well as, knowledge of how to function in our society
as a productive... not a destructive member of our society.
TV viewing is a passive and non-creative experience
which substitutes for time that would be much better spent
reading and actively interacting with our children.
Moderation is a good standard for almost everything.
If we keep television to a minimum, and carefully watch what the child is exposed to
(including commercials) and interact with them even while the television is on,
may be helpful.
It is when the child is parked in front of the screen morning till night,
not talking to others, not moving around, snacking continuously,
and not getting any play time in...that they become almost like zombies.
Television can have a major impact on viewers, particularly children.
Too much television can have unhealthy side effects.
To stimulate the child's mind, body, and spirit
allow for creative time and quiet time without the television...
telling the vision.
“I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination.
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.”
Make certain TV is not used as a babysitter.
Allow for creative time without TV.
The less TV and the more good parental influence for children,
in general... the better.
Television has long been criticized for its potential impact on children.
Media exposure can positively or negatively influence a child's cognitive development
and academic achievement.
We must exercise the influence and discipline that God intended for us as parents.
We should monitor how much time our children spend watching TV…
and be aware of what programs they are watching.
We need to seek out beneficial programs that provide teaching opportunities
that we want our children to see, learn from, and imitate.
We need to research reputable broadcast outlets making sure
that the quality and content of television programs are well-designed,
age-appropriate, and are programs designed around an educational curriculum.
We owe this to our youth.
To raise children properly, our duties aren’t limited to food, shelter and protection,
but also require that we teach and educate our children, shaping knowledge and character...
preparing our children for the real world...which goes beyond our communities borders.
Children are very young and inexperienced persons.
By nature, their capability of reasoning hasn’t fully developed yet.
They are often incapable of drawing a clear distinction
between what is socially acceptable and unacceptable.
We must exercise the influence and discipline that God intended for us
as parents or our children will bring us sorrow.
Children belong in families, which, ideally, serve as a sanctuary
and a cushion from the world at large.
Parents ideally act as filters,
guiding their children and teaching them right from wrong.
Our children are in the midst of many complexed problems.
To simply encourage another may seem insignificant,
but haven’t we all been helped through difficult times
by encouraging words from others?
As adults, we are often so absorbed in our own problems
and/or so consumed by the negative messages around us
that we simply don’t think to encourage our children.
Perhaps we have not come to the realization of just how powerful our encouraging words and acts can be.
Let us help our children see what it means to encourage others and how doing so
may make a difference in another person’s life.
Encouraging words and actions are among the ways that each of us can show God’s love to those around us...
especially our children.
To value life and liberty, to encourage our youth to stay curious,
to encourage them to keep learning, and to utilize their God-given talents, abilities, and skills...
is an absolute... must do.
Our children are powerfully impacted from what they see their parents do.
They mimic their words, actions, and attitudes.
Verbal communication has two parts:
what is said and what is heard.
Children listen to our words, but often it is our actions that impact them the most.
Trust...parents will answer for failure to train their children.
Unfortunately, the tender and trusting hearts of our children, are especially vulnerable to the crushing and often life changing effects of
harmful speech. Since approval and commendation are to children, what water and sunshine are to a plant, subtracting this from the
formula, only to add speech that harms, will only result in a withering away of your child's dignity, courage, confidence, and self
assurance.Parents and caregivers are vital to the healthy development and growth of children.
Parents teach their children most of the behaviors and skills they have.
Children are impressionable and naturally imitate those around them.
As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives,
they are watching us to see what we do with ours.
Children really do watch our examples
far more than they listen to our preaching.
We are instructed to live right before God
and to impart the same way of life,
by example and teaching, to our children.
A child learns the importance of confessing failure,
serving humbly, and living uprightly...
from home environments.
If children focus their attention on whomever they spend their time with,
they will learn to mimic their patterns at some level of their being.
May we never forget:
Small children like to mimic the actions of adults.
Teaching requires that we back up our instruction with sound reasoning.
It is easy to say, “I am your parent; do as I tell you,”
but do not be fooled into thinking that giving orders is the same as training.
Children need to understand why they are expected to behave in a certain way.
Taking extra time to explain the reason behind a request or a punishment
builds authentic respect for authority and develops a child’s recognition of wrong and right.
Think about it:
If a parent throws garbage on the ground, rather than in the trash,
those practices will carry over to the child.
Be a good role model.
God has given us a picture of the type of parents we can become—
loving, supportive, generous, and wise in word and deed.
With God's help, we can straighten things out
and make sure our children hear messages that both train and encourage them.
It must remembered and realized that if we are hateful and violent,
our children will become the same or at least copy those response patterns of life.
A Good role model is someone whose hindsight and insight can become foresight.
Our job is to teach our children that You, O God value honesty, integrity, loyalty, and purity.
We are to model it through our dealings with others.
Hearing parents pray will help our sons and daughters
to learn to talk with You, O God, listen to You, and respond to You.
This teaches our children how to find direction for their lives.
Children want their parents to give them structure,
guidance, and direction.
One way we can regain the plan of what God has for our young people
is to make sure our life is consistent
with what we want to teach our sons and daughters.
The examples of parents are HUGE!
Children need to learn much about life and gain experience.
In doing so, they need training and guidance to lead them to the right path,
build their capability of reasoning,
and shape their behavior into a socially acceptable one.
As a mom or dad, we are called to discipline our children in a godly manner.
In fact, the failure to do so is an act of disobedience on our part.
So, what causes rebellion to authority,
and out of control rage of children?
The answer could very well be,
THE ABSENCE OF LOVING DISCIPLINE BY PARENTS
DURING THE FORMATIVE YEARS.
Children need predictability and security,
which they get when their mother and father respond
consistently, promptly, and appropriately to their cries, smiles and other signals.
Parents are expected to administer correction involving discipline.
It's the parents' duty to educate, lead, and guide children.
Children watch and listen intently.
Little ones can learn quite early to behave well.
An ancient Chinese proverb tells us,
"A child's life is like a sheet of paper on which every passerby
leaves a mark."
Children copy the patterns of their care givers without any awareness.
Since they have no other model as to how they should be and act in the world,
they copy those they see around themselves.
Then they carry many of those patterns all their life
including passing them on generation after generation.
Good role models help and influence our children to know how to be
and act in the world.
"...Then we shall be no longer infants,
tossed back and forth by the waves..."
"Train up a child in the way he should go"
is the most important responsibility of any parent.
If we don't discipline our children they will become rebels
and society will discipline them in one way or another.
Many out-of-control children are growing up and being out-of-control adults.
If we don’t shape our children,
they will be shaped by outside forces
who could care less what shape our children are in.
Children who are raised without emphasis on manners and respect
are more likely to be less successful in life
and in turn can also be a contributor to rising crime rates.
The age at which children are considered
responsible for their own actions
has also changed over time, and this is reflected
in the way they are treated in courts of law.
Parents... it is our job to raise happy, healthy, well adjusted children.
To train children in godliness.
Proverbs 23:13-14 tells us to "Withhold not correction from the child."
He who withholds his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.
SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD
The phrase “Spare the rod, spoil the child” comes from Proverbs 13:24,
“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.”
God uses discipline to reveal our sin to us.
The saying means that failing to exert authority over a child is bad for the child's development.
The rod of correction/guidance has long been used as a symbol of authority.
It is good for parents to set rules, boundaries, and consequences for children.
Spare the rod of guidance; spoil the child speaks of the negative consequences of withholding punishment.
But according to the book of Proverbs
there are many positive benefits of correctly applying the rod of correction/guidance to the seat of the problem.
Proverbs 3:12 says,
“Whom the Lord loves He reproves, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.”
But what does this really mean?
Withhold not correction from the child.
Children feel safe when there is continuity and consistency in daily routines,
and especially when there is a loving atmosphere.Parents need to stay strong.
Having the discernment and wisdom to help children through childhood and the teen years does not come easy.
It is a major test for parents; however, children need this.
They need to know the security of boundaries and the consequences of improper actions.
Parents who don't discipline or set any guidelines for their children
are likely to produce ill-mannered, whiny, selfish, arrogant, rude, defiant, and spoiled children.
Parents are not to withhold discipline from a child;
if you punish them with the rod, they will not die.
Punish them with the rod and save them from death.
"This language was designed to motivate overly permissive parents,
who are afraid of damaging young children with any kind of discipline,
or of making rules and enforcing them.
There is no call here for abuse.
Loving discipline does not destroy rebellious children;
it does them a big favor."
The rod and reproof gives wisdom:
but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame.
Jesus was gentle with children. He is a Shepherd to the sheep.
The shepherd uses His rod to guide the sheep, not to beat them!
We should try to keep our children's hearts
and keep them on the right path by praying for God to convict and protect them.
He is the GREAT Shepherd
and He will work in their lives in a much more effective manner than we can.
If He chooses to allow some kind of circumstance or situation in their life,
to keep them in the fold, then so be it!
He is much stronger than human parents.
The word “rod” in Proverbs is the Hebrew word shabat.
It was used to describe the rod a shepherd used
to guide, control, protect and tend their sheep.
The rod was used to gently poke and press the animals into line
and for keeping them out of dangerous situations.
The shepherd would throw the rod
gently at a sheep to get its attention
or warn it not to do something.
The shepherds would use rods this way
as a tool of discipline.
They did not throw it to hurt the sheep,
just to startle them into compliance.
The shepherd would also throw the rod at a predator
to scare it away from the flock,
or club aggressive animals or snakes with it.
They would throw the rod hard at dangerous creatures,
aiming to wound or kill them rather than just to alert them.
The shepherd rarely used the rod to “beat” a lamb;
instead, he firmly struck their hindquarters
to get them to go in the right direction.
The sheep came to fear the rod without fearing the shepherd.
If a lamb wandered off beyond his reach, the shepherd tossed the stick in front of the lamb,
and it would send the lamb scurrying back into the flock.
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child;
The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.
Our children are like sheep much of the time, clueless.
They can be easily led astray, prone to wander into danger and in desperate need of protection and direction.
If we don’t shape our kids, they will be shaped by outside forces that don’t care what shape our kids are in.
Dr. Louise Hart
When parents are alienated from God,
the results in the lives of their children are,
of course, catastrophic.
Children need to be prodded from time to time to stay on course.
We have to protect our children, to warn them by telling what is safe to do
and what isn’t, before they venture out on their own.
Discipline in its simplest form is to teach a child how to learn self control,
to recognize what are acceptable limits, to know the boundaries of where to stop.
Children will test the boundaries we set for them,
often deliberately misbehaving just to learn what our reaction will be.
They will also act obediently and then look to us for support and praise.
From the time they are very young,
we should train them to be obedient and expect disciplinary consequences for disobedience.
Those who love well, will discipline well.
And when children know better... they will do better.
To learn these things, a child does not need to be put down.
Discipline is not to tear them down, but to assist in helping them mature.
Discipline is a major part of overall child development.
Discipline takes a firm, consistent hand in each child's life.
Parents cannot, however, do a half-hearted job or hope that the problems like:
disrespect, obnoxious behavior, disobedience, greed, insensitivity to others,
dishonesty, anger, temper tantrums, and abuse toward a parent will just go away... they won't.
Discipline is a necessity.
A shepherd has a rod he uses to keep his sheep in line.
In like manner, sometimes God has to use harsh methods to teach us valuable lessons,
otherwise we wouldn’t progress or mature in the faith.
This should be greatly encouraging to us for it means that God cares enough to watch over us
and push us in the right direction.
It’s the same as a parent who punishes a child, not out of some sadistic desire,
but because he/she loves the child and wants what’s best for their child.
God instructs parents to use a “rod” for an important reason.
The rod of guidance is a neutral object.
It’s much better to use a switch or a small stick to punish your child than to use your hand.
You should only use your hand to caress and to soothe your child–
you don’t want your children growing up in fear of your hand.
It’s tempting for parents to spontaneously slap their misbehaving child on the leg,
but that’s a bad habit to begin.
It’s never appropriate for a parent to use their fists or hands
to beat their children–
that is child abuse!
Parenting is a journey that never ends.
Whether our children are infants or adults,
once we have them, we are parents for life.
The Bible has never proven Itself wrong,
and has always blessed those who followed its teaching regarding rearing children.
Helping children with the process of learning to become mature,
well adjusted adults takes patience, determination, and a gentle firmness.
It is not easy.
We must be ready and available with correction, training, and nurturing.
Many households, today, are going to lose their children because
the parents have not taken the time to make sure that their household is a God-fearing home.
Let us not allow our children to become a casualty because we were not obedient to God's instruction.
Let us be like Joshua and declare, "As for me and my house, we will serve God!"
May we nurture the Spirit of our children.
Most parents will probably have their child(ren) in the home for about 18 years,
and during that time it is their responsibility to see that the child is educated,
trained, and brought to enough spiritual maturity to make the step into responsible adulthood.
We are witnessing an increase of single-parent or primary parent systems.
The normal childhood experience of over 61 percent of today's youth
is to live with only one parent and/or spend part of their lives in a single parent family.
Mothers and fathers often bring different strengths and styles to their parenting roles.
These roles complement each other, meaning that they are not interchangeable
and are each necessary for healthy child rearing.
Fathers influence their children in large part through the quality of their relationship
with the mother of their children.
Mothers and fathers can bring unique strengths to their relationships
with their children.
Children with both a mother and a father can benefit from more caring,
as well as a variety of caring styles.
God will provide the skills
needed for managing the home.
God knows that a positive, godly environment
helps families to flourish.
Young people observe how Mom and Dad depend on God in their struggles,
and they will remember how God helped.
Parents' belief in God's sufficiency will leave a strong impression on their children.
Later, when faced with choices, they will have those examples
of faith and trust in God to help guide them.
In the privacy of our home, we also want our family to see Jesus in us.
Children learn from their parents’ arguments.
If mom and dad exchange angry words, but later resolve their issues peaceably,
children learn that calm often follows storms.
If we show forgiveness, patience, and acceptance then our children will expect to find those traits
In a similar way, negative behaviors— for example,
consistent harshness, busyness, or emotional neglect—
also shape a child’s view of God.
Children learn what they live.
Both parents should teach their children
to be honest, responsible, trustworthy and respectful, whether they are male or female.
Differences in parental play styles do exist.
Young men can learn from a single mother many great things about life.
Mothers are usually the ones who help children to know about God,
mind their manners, respect elders...
and the list could go on and on;
however, there are certain masculine traits that women are unable to provide.
There is a very interesting and obvious phenomenon occurring
as it relates to our children's perception of authority figures.
At home, the mother is usually the dominant authority figure.
The teachers, and the church congregations consists of mostly women.
Women have been forced into areas that some men have totally abandoned...
leaving voids and identity crisis for all involved.
Raising a child up without obvious male role models
at home, school, and other key locations
can leave our children empty and vulnerable.
In their efforts to fill this unknown void... they become curious...
sometimes to a gang culture and street machismo
that might threaten to lead them into criminality.
Will a fathers' presence and God-centered households
help combat crime?
A father's involvement, support, and connection with his children
have been associated with safer more positive environments and outcomes.
A father's presence is essential to his child's well-being.
Children with involved, loving fathers
are significantly more likely to do well in school, have healthy self-esteem,
and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use, truancy, and criminal activity.
Every day is father's day.
Dads play a unique and irreplaceable role in their children's lives.
Fathers play a unique and crucial role in nurturing and guiding children's development.
Many experts now believe that fathers can be just as nurturing and sensitive with their babies as mothers.
As their children grow, fathers take on added roles of guiding their children's intellectual and social development.
Even when a father is 'Just playing' with his children, he is nurturing their development.
Children with involved fathers are usually more intellectually, developmentally, and socially sound.
Dads are crucial.
Fathers play an important role in a child's development from birth through adulthood.
In fact, numerous studies have reached the same conclusion:
Children with involved fathers have an advantage... socially and academically...
over children with distant or no relationships with their dads.
Another study found that primary school children scored higher on tests of empathy-
the ability to see a situation from another person's viewpoint-
if they had secure attachments to their fathers during infancy.
These children were able to recognize how other children felt
and took steps to make them feel better.
In many cases, when fathers are involved with their children...
the children appear to have fewer, disciplinary, problems.
The father's involvement is a tremendous help to the children.
In many cases, children with fathers who take the time to ask about what they learned in school
and their day-to-day social activities and relationships
do better in school than kids who don't have that kind of input or interest.
A child’s first image of God is their earthly father.
Fathers are far more than just another adult in the home.
Involved fathers bring positive benefits to their children that no other person is as likely to bring.
Children who have an involved father are more likely to be emotionally secure.
Our Father's love is constant and unchanging, regardless of what we do.
When children experience the unalterable nature of the Lord's love through a parent's example,
they will be drawn to God.
It's important to note:
A father figure doesn't have to be a biological father in order for children to benefit.
It can be an adoptive father, step dad, or an uncle in the household.
It is beneficial to everyone when the father is
more involved with their children.
The reason why some of our children are out there lost, without any direction is because somebody has failed to give them their history... their bridges to the world.The bond of an extended family, friends, and teammates becomes very powerful. It also explains why some adolescents join gangs. They want to belong, even if it's wrong.
We all have a deep-seated need to feel we are part of something larger than ourselves.
This need, encompasses people, places, and possessions.
Our instinct for belonging – for being wanted, accepted, enjoyed, and loved by close ones –
is extremely powerful.
Fathers and mothers open doors of opportunities for their children
by giving them access to a vast network including: grandparents,
aunts and uncles,
cousins, and friends of the family.
Our children need to realize they have true purpose and value.
Are we truly taking the time to teach our children the virtues of purity
and that their bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit, or are we instead choosing to teach our children
about condoms, birth control, and safe sex?
Are we, by example and words, stressing a Godly attitude towards drinking and drugs,
or are we waiting for some school program to give our child a "Just say no" lesson?
Do we keep our children accountable to us as their parent and guardian,
or are we more interested in trying to be their best friend and get them to like us?
Are we like Joshua, who said these wonderful words:
"As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord" (Joshua 24:15b),
or have we left our children to find their own way in this world full of temptations, sins, and evil?
Children want to have standards to live up to.
Children may fight us every step of the way, but secretly they are grateful that we love them enough
to want to fence them in with high standards and rules.
Not only do our children want it --
God wants us to teach our children His commands and standards!
Deuteronomy 32:46, "And He said unto them,
Set your hearts unto all the words which I testify among you this day,
which ye shall command your children to observe to do, all the words of this law."
"And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children,
and shall talk of them when thou sit in thine house,
and when thou walk by the way, and when thou lie down,
and when thou rise up."
Regardless of the label we wear – parent, teacher, neighbor, or aunt —
we have the opportunity every day to be the best version of ourselves
and share that with the children in our world.
May we let the children in our world witness us modeling appropriate behavior.
May we commit to pray daily with and for our children.
May we provide a safe haven, where our children's questions are answered
and their doubts can change to faith and certainty.
May we invite all children
to experience the love of God.
May we send them out to reflect God
in their daily lives.
"What a sweet reward it is for parents to hear adult children say,
"We are grateful for the way you all raised us
and all of the life lessons that we were taught.."
“Jesus loves me still today,
walking with me on my way,
wanting as a friend to give
light and love to all who live.
A Good role model is
hindsight and insight
can become foresight.
A child’s first image of God is his earthly father.
A child’s first image of God is his earthly father.
A child’s first image of God is his earthly father.
A child’s first image of God is his earthly father.
While children come to Jesus readily, there is more hesitancy for adults to respond. Grown-ups seem to lose the innocent faith and trusting nature that children possess. Yet in Matthew 18:4-6, Jesus invites us to come to Him “like little children” and says “whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”