FAMILY
 

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The family is the nucleus of civilization.

 

 

Sometimes the very people we look to for love and affection

are the ones who wound us most.

Sometimes they are members of our own family.

Some members are super-critical,

quick to find problems, and/or faults,

they tell cutting jokes that are put downs

(in other words, at a family member's expense)

leaving deep wounds which can last a lifetime. 

Far too many families know what the other does, but they do not know each other.

Too many are searching for significance through mundane activities,

yet in the midst of it all they have lost the significance of what they were designed to be...

a member of the highest institution in the entire universe...

Many family members have watched their parents, children, siblings, and spouses

go to the graves commenting

"We never really talked,"

or "I never really knew him/her."

The more we know one another in a family,

the more affection we have for one another.

Affirming the good qualities we find in one another

is a critical cohesive factor in most good families.

From affection comes affirmation

and from affirmation comes self-esteem.

 

Listening with the heart helps.

 

It is our daily duty to consider that in all circumstances of life,

pleasurable, painful, or otherwise,

the conduct of every human being affects, more or less, the happiness of others,

especially of those in the same house;

and that, as life is made up, for the most part, not of great occasions,

but of small everyday moments,

it is the giving to those moments

their greatest amount of peace, pleasantness, and security,

that contributes most to the sum of human good.  

Be peaceable. Be cheerful. Be true.

~ Leigh Hunt

 

 
The bedrock of all societies,
 
a haven in a heartless world,
 
the birthplace of passion,
 
the most reliable unit in society
 
should be the family.
 
 
 
 
Family is the cornerstone,
 
the basis,
 
the infrastructure
 
and root of civilization.
 
It is the first natural society from which
 
all other communities and nations spring.
 
 

In human context,

a family is an exclusive group of people

who share a close relationship —

a unit typically (or "traditionally") composed of a mated couple

dependent children (procreation)

in co-residence.

 
 
 
When the families' foundation crumbles,
 
eventually nations will.
 
 
 

 

 

Families create generations
 
— each of which gain in maturity and self
 
sufficiency such as to create and provide for subsequent generations.
 
 
 

The family is in serious crisis.

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Although most regard family as their most gratifying aspect of life,

they also regard it as their most baffling.

Stretched,

stressed,

and losing touch with each other...

the family is changing,

and sad to say, not for the better. 

Today, in our easy going, accommodating society, we're faced with tremendous family issues.

Many families are confused and scattered.

Many children don't experience healthy parent, child relationships.

Unfortunately, many parents don't feel the need to be committed parents.

Teen rebellion,

child abuse,

spousal violence,

alcoholism,

and other devastating problems

rob families of happiness,

and what should be that safe haven of security for every man, woman, and child

has become more of a living hell.

 

Feelings of worth can flourish

only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated,

mistakes are tolerated,

communication is open,

and rules are flexible

-- the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.

~Virginia Satir

 Family is the oldest institution on earth...

the cornerstone of this society.

 

Reports tell of:

*Countless homeless children roaming the streets.

*Teens giving birth to children from multiple fathers.

*Many escape from abusive homes.

*Many are cast out by families who don't want or can't afford to support them.

*Divorce is becoming increasingly common.

*More and more children are born out of wedlock. 

In recent years, the single parent family, the step family,

and the family whose parents are not living together for one reason or another

have become increasingly common. 

*Grandparents are routinely looking after grandchildren.
 

 

*People are marrying less often and growing numbers prefer to

live together without the responsibilities of marriage.

 

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The greatest mistake any of us could ever make

is to do nothing with our youth and family.

 

 

Fate chooses our family.

The great gift of family life is to be intimately acquainted with people

you might never even introduce yourself to,

had life not done it for you. 

~Kendall Hailey, The Day I Became an Autodidact

Blood relatives often have nothing to do with family.

 

 

"Family isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs;

the ones who accept you for who you are.

The ones who would do anything to see you smile

and who love you no matter what."

~Unknown

 

 

 

Family can mean all kinds of things to people today.

It's been said...

" We are the sum total of what we have learned

from all who have taught us."

Are we putting into practice responsibility and respectability?

 

Are we striving to make God and family our greatest

wellsprings of happiness?

Think about it... 

Good families produce productive citizens. 

Self esteem and respect comes from

family environment and experiences.

 

Families nurture, love, work together and share one another's burdens.

They are supportive and encouraging.

They listen, counsel, and console their members.

In order for this society to eliminate

crime and violence,

each family member needs to

make it their top priority

to pitch in and help to raise and be

good productive citizens.

 

Children need to feel safe, no matter how trouble-filled the outside world may be.

They need to know that if they get sick, family will care for them,

or if they have problems with peer pressure or school work

they can go to family and get good solid advice and support.

Good families inscribe:

good morals, values, spirituality, love, self-respect and dignity

on the hearts and minds of their members.

 

Family support is very important.

*With family support and encouragement...

what would have been that drunk or addict,

may become that teacher, minister, lawyer or doctor.

 

*Without family, that successful entrepreneur

may become that inmate.

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That genius may become a dope dealer.

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That great scientist, teacher, preacher, chef,

producer, writer, actor, mom, dad, or florist,

could become that homeless person

searching for crumbs to eat.

Years ago families and communities supported true family values. They nurtured the young people and their values by showing the youth what was important and why it was important. They knew that the young people would be the ones who would inherit the communities, so they trained them up to carry on the work the grown ups had started.

According to John Cougar Mellencamp,

"There is nothing more sad or glorious than generations changing hands."

 

 

 

In the late 1950s and early 1960s,

the traditional family looked like

(or was supposed to look like)

the working father, the homemaker mother,

and a two or three school aged children.

 

Parents interacted with each other and with their children

and they recognized the importance of family.

 

Traditionally, one of the most important sources of

stability has been our enduring faith in family.

Family is a fundamental social group in society

typically consisting of one or two parents

and their children.

What is family?

The sense of sharing flesh and blood

gives people a unique identity as a family.

 

It is not flesh and blood,

but the heart which makes us family. 

 

 The great gift of family life is to be intimately acquainted

with people you might never even introduce yourself to,

had life not done it for you.

Kendall Hailey

 

Jesus is talking to a crowd. The topics are

difficult and complexed. Someone tells Jesus that His

mother and brothers are standing outside

waiting to talk to Him. 

Jesus replies, “Who is My mother, and who are My brothers?”

 Then He looked at those seated in a circle around Him and said,

'Here are My mother and My brothers!

 Whoever does God's will 

is My brother and sister and mother.'

Mark 3:31–35

 

Jesus' biological kin stood outside his inner circle. 

Jesus defined his kin by theological

rather than biological relationships. 

It is not flesh and blood,

but the heart which hears the Word of God and act on it

that makes us family. 

Jesus used this opportunity to teach the crowd

a simple spiritual truth –

that true kinship was not just a matter of flesh and blood

within a family,

but a universal relationship of love,

commitment, loyalty, faithfulness, kindness,

thoughtfulness and compassion

that bound people together in mutual love and unity.

 

Unlike the worldly idea of blood-tie kinship,

Jesus generously welcomed anyone,

who heard God’s Word and put it into practice,

into His family.

"For whoever does the will of my Heavenly Father

is my brother, and sister, and mother." 

 

 

The family of Jesus was not constituted by physical

relationship to Him but by obedience to the Word of God.

 The first and foremost thing

that is important in a family is LOVE.

 

 Love is the best virtue that can be taught by family. 

In fact, the whole concept of a family,

is the caring and sharing we undertake,

which is based on love.

You don't choose your family.

They are God's gift to you,

as you are to them.

-- Desmond Tutu 

Family is the highest school of education—

it is the school for teaching love, self respect, dignity,

commitment, compassion, faithfulness, kindness

and family values.

If you only have one smile in you,

give it to the people you love.

Maya Angelou 

Loving family members are genuinely concerned

about each other’s well being.

A family without love is no longer a family.

 

It is not flesh and blood

but the heart which makes us family. 

One of the most important areas in our lives,

"Family." 

Family could be viewed as a group

in which persons are together

under the same identity.

Any two people sharing a common blood line can call themselves relatives,

but only when our lives are turned upside down 

can we truly see if we are a part of a family. 

 

The great gift of family life is to be intimately acquainted with people

you might never even introduce yourself to,

had life not done it for you.

-- Kendall Hailey 

Family often stands on top of social hierarchies

with its strong power uniting all the members.

That means it is something more

than the sum of each member.
 
 
 

  There are a lot of components in the meaning of a family.  
 
Family is a word that can mean a lot of different things

to different people.

 

 Family is a word so often heard, but its relevance so less appreciated.

Most of us would give our own life for the survival of a family member.

 

Yet, In a world of hustle and bustle we can take for granted the bonds

we have formed with those we love the most.

  We can sometimes forget the importance of showing family how much we care for,

and appreciate them on a daily basis. 

Today, family means all kinds of things to people.

There are many people out there

who feel a lot closer to their friends

than they do to the members of their own family.

 

If one pulls off the layers...

one will come to realize that most of the time

some members are a lot nicer to their friends than with

their own flesh and blood.

Our most basic instinct is not for survival,

but for family.  

The social universe established by kinship cannot be defined solely in terms of biology alone.

Indeed, kinship establishes the base, but not the totality of what individuals think of as family.

The roles that family plays in a society are not complete without the inclusion of fictive kin relationships.

They are fictive in the sense that these ties have a basis different from bonds of blood,

not in the sense that these relationships are any less important.

Unlike true kinship bonds, fictive kin ties are usually voluntary and require the consent of both parties

in establishing the bond.

The idea that you cannot pick your relatives

does not apply to fictive kin.

There's an awful lot of blood around

that water is thicker than. 

-- Mignon McLaughlin

  

 When something is wrong with a family member

it can do two things to us;

either bring us closer together

or tear us apart...

and the latter happens to relatives

not families. 

 

 The family should be our happy haven from a heartless world. 

A healthy, happy family benefits our whole society. 

 Family life is important for a healthy development,

security and stability of the members.

 For some, as a rule,

the family is at center stage. 

In some families the value attributed to the individual

and to individualism tends to predominate. 

Young adults leave home, encouraged by their parents,

so as to acquire the experiences they need to handle life

as autonomous individuals. 

Leaving home at an early age is considered an important

part of their education.

 Loneliness, of the individual who must confront the world and his own life

without the safety net of familial support has, all too often,

been an important social problem in our society. 

 

 

  What exactly makes up a strong family 

that possesses good family values?

 

*A strong family is one that sustains its members.

*Supports and nourishes the members throughout the span of that family .

*A strong family unit creates a safe, positive and supportive place for all members to thrive.

*They are able to utilize resources and live together in a fairly healthy manner. 

*The adults in a strong family set the tone.
 
*They are good role models that lead by example.
 
*Parents are role models to their children and are supposed to teach them right from wrong.
 
*They reach out to family and friends and teach their children the importance
 
of doing the same -- and that becomes part of who the children are.
 
*They work together to solve problems.
 
*They pass their skills on to the next generation.
 
 
Looking at family, we see the
past,
present,
and future. 
 
Some important elements of a strong family system are:
 
*Family cohesion
 
*Family flexibility
 
*Family communication
 
 
A lack of communication can rip a family apart
 
and destroy them.
 
 According to numerous case studies, among the children of strong families...
 
*There is less crime
 
*Less divorce
 
*Less emotional problems
 
*They tend to go on and have strong, healthy families of their own, 
 
having learned from parental example.
 
 
 As long as we have the sincere love of a family supporting and encouraging us,
 
no matter how hard things get we can still get through it. 

 

                                                                                    

 

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