Assumption is at the heart of
many conflicts and fights in
which we can find ourselves.
What real evidence do we have
to support our notion?
The difficulty with assumptions is that we can
believe them to be true. We make assumptions
about what other people are doing or thinking
and take them personally. Then we blame them
and respond with emotional poison in our words.
That's why, whenever we make assumptions,
we're setting ourselves up for difficulties.
Because of assumptions, even the
best relationships are impaired, if
not destroyed. Unchecked
assumptions can lead to disaster!
The cost for assuming the good, bad, or ugly can
become a painful circle of misery for all involved.
Have you ever formed negative opinions
about a person or a circumstance based
on information you thought was correct,
but later learned to be incorrect?
Our assumptions are the facts we accept without
examination. We should always be skeptical of
our preconceptions. We take our intellectual
blind spots for granted.
A huge percentage of us are operating on faulty
assumptions. Assumptions are generally the
source of, disillusionment, frustration and
False assumptions lead to incorrect conclusions,
which can lead to incorrect actions... and major
conflicts and clashes.
There may be miscommunications between
people... and side-liners will, occasionally,
hit the ground running with this sizzling bit
of news. They are eager to accept what they
want to assume.
Assumptions can soon become self-sustaining.
This is especially true when we do not pause to
gather our facts.
Many disagreements and clashes start with
unchecked assumptions and erroneous
judgments. It just takes a minute for ridiculous
beliefs to take root. One irresponsible person
or a tiny clique can spread these false perceptions
Then, there are those who are known to exaggerate.
Before the news gets old... things pour on, either
inadvertently or on deliberately, and the situation
evolves into a conflict.
These clashes and conflicts dilute and/or nullify
any good that may have existed prior to the
The narrative of Job is a typical example
of reaching the erroneous conclusion based
on incorrect assumptions.
Job's friends applied a correct principle
incorrectly by assuming that Job's suffering was
caused by his sin or disobedience to God.
Rather than consoling Job, his friends condemned
him. They thought Job needed to be corrected
rather than comforted.
Who needs adversaries when
you have comforters like Job's
Job's buddies assumed... they knew what
was going on with him. They assumed... that
everyone received what they deserved. They
expected there would be no exceptions. They
assumed... that if Job trusted in God, his
circumstances would improve.
But, according to the first few chapters of Job,
Job did trust God.
Our assumptions are the
imaginative blind spots
We don't examine our assumptions for
So why not?
Assumptions are almost never correct.
We put the cart before the horse and act
on what we find as interesting...
When something we believe to be true turns
out to be erroneous, we reach incorrect
conclusions. And incorrect conclusions can
lead to incorrect acts. Our bad deeds can speak
volumes and ruin another's life.
May the refinement and cultivation
of our own lives keep us so busy
that we never have time to criticize
or assume the worst in others.