Positively Good Productions
"Making a Positively Good difference"
Politically correct behavior?
What happened to socially correct behavior?
Where have all the good manners
gone?
Many want what they want yesterday,
and they don't care who they offend
in order to fulfill their desires.
This page was designed to reinforce and teach civility and common courtesy.
We want to give children the confidence to handle whatever comes their way
and to understand the importance of respect, consideration, and honesty...
the principles behind etiquette.
What are good manners?
Good manners are life skills.
It is considering the feelings of other people,
and being the kind of person that others will like and respect.
It is civilized behavior.
Courtesy, politeness, respecting others, and ourselves is key.
The Golden Rule
"Always do to others
as you would wish them to do to you...
if you were in their place."
To apply the Golden Rule,
simply ask yourself
"How would you like to be treated
in the same situation?"
Then treat the other person that way.
"Treat others as you would like to be treated,"
this includes all other people.
If we are respectful to others,
then we are more likely to be treated with respect by them.
the end result could be detrimental to our children.
There’s a reason for that old adage:
“You catch more flies with honey than vinegar”
or some such wording.
Our daily experiences are better
when couched in terms of please and thank you.
How would you feel if someone:
*Never said 'Please' or 'Thank you'
*Talked to your friend but turned their back to you?
*Pushed you out of the way to get the seat you were about to sit on?
*Drove in the wrong way and took your parking space?
*Made fun of you to evoke laughter from others
knowing that your feelings would be hurt?
*Let the door slam in your face as you were about to walk through it?
Some people are guilty of looking back to see if anyone is there,
and still not hold the door for the person behind them...
rather, they let it slam almost in their face.
Try holding the door for someone behind you.
This is what "Good manners" look like:
Good manners is being helpful
and polite to others.
Good manners does not make jokes
at another's expense.
Good manners cleans up after themselves. 
Good manners says 'Please' and 'Thank you'.
Good manners yields and allows another to have the seat,
especially an older person, pregnant woman, or child.
Good manners is respectful
of their property and the property of others.
Good manners puts rubbish into trash bins.
Good manners yields and allows another
to have the parking space.
Good manners yields and allows another
entrance into the traffic lane.
Good manners shares and does not keep the best for themselves.
Good manners is being mindful of the tone and volume of our
voice. Well mannered people realize that talking or laughing too loudly
can attract the wrong kind of attention.
Good manners says good morning, good afternoon, good
evening, good night if they are entering a room or walking past another.
Good manners asks if they can borrow something, They don't just take it.
Good manners takes care and returns things they borrowed.
Good manners waits their turn before speaking.
Good manners holds the door open for the person coming in.
Good manners puts shopping carts away properly.
Good manners flushes the toilet in public and private restrooms.
We Never Get a Second Chance
To Make A Good First Impression!
Whether it be a job interview, a business meeting or a social function,
people often reach instant conclusions – positive or negative –
on how they regard others within the first 15 to 30 seconds of meeting them.
Social graces, common sense, and pure plain manners
seem to be a thing of the past in far too many homes.
It seems to have a direct correlation
to how some children treat their teachers,
other students, and often...
their own parents.
Does your child use bad manners at home?
Would you be embarrassed if your child's bad manners surfaced in public?
As quiet as it's kept...
We can and should help our children find practical ways to use basic manners
so they will become automatic for years to come.
Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Proverbs 22:6
Non verbal communication of manners matters.
In communication...
seventy percent of what we communicate is non verbal. The way
we walk, sit and stand all communicate our reason for being there.
People have already made a decision, on some level, as to whether or
not they will listen to us.
Most people judge others by their actions,
and themselves by their intentions.
"It is not what you say which matters, it is what you do."
"It is how you look, how you stand,..." and so on.
Leadership is influence.
Parents have the power to exert
powerful positive influences!
If we are mannerly ourselves, of course, children will do as we do.
We have to decide that bad manners will not be tolerated
at home or outside of the home... period.
We need to help our children figure out and navigate
through a variety of situations and know the respectful
and considerate thing to do... when confronted.
The examples we display in every day life are key.
Our children are watching us.
Being a good role model is key,
because children do emulate adults' behavior.
Everything rises and falls on leadership. For our children to develop
values that are essential to being
courteous, they need to see those same qualities in the people whom
they respect. We need to raise polite children in these impolite times.
Children come into this world as a blank slate. It is up to the parents
to inscribe upon the fertile grounds of their children's hearts and
minds... love, self-respect, dignity, humanity, family,
and good manners.
Teaching our children good manners helps to keep them
on the course of graciousness and success.
It’s much easier to teach good manners
while our children are young
than it is to break bad habits when they are old.
Train up a child in the way he/she should go,
and when he/she is old he/she
will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6
We should teach our children to say:
Please, May I,
Thank you, I'm sorry
Excuse me.
Teaching our children about
respect is the most
important and enduring job
a parent will ever have.
Good manners equals good children.
Bring children up virtuously and they will continue so.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,
but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
These parental mandates
are good rules
for adults to live by too.
Politeness counts!
Want your child to grow into a thoughtful, loving, creative person
who will possess resilience, generosity, curiosity, consideration for others,
respect and perseverance?
Then, we need to be teaching our children manners.
It's agreed: manners need to be taught to our children. Teaching our children
manners gives them "lifelong survival skills." They give children an advantage.
By learning and using manners, children become more confident.
They are also more comfortable when they know how to get along with others.
Providing a supportive and affirming role is a parent's essential task for life.
For children to be successful in life,
they need to have social skills as well as academic skills.
We should teach our children how to listen, to apologize,
to be successful in social interactions with their peers.
And if we help our young children learn polite and caring behavior,
they will continue to use good manners and become more socially aware
as they get older.
When children are polite, kind, and honest... they develop character.
May we raise our children to be polite and teach them manners
and help them truly value politeness.
Direct your children onto the right path,
and when they are older, they will not leave it.
