Forgiveness means different things
to different people.
Generally, forgiveness involves a decision to
let go of resentment, hostility, negativity,
and thoughts that can have us so wrapped up
in stinking thinking that we can't enjoy the present.
We are often apprehensive about forgiving
because we feel that forgiveness means
we must once again
expose ourselves to the same toxic, mean-spirited,
destructive abusers... and trust them again.
To the contrary...
forgiveness doesn't mean denying reality.
Forgiveness is not forgetting the harm done to us.
It is not pretending it didn't happen or
making up with the person and
erasing the bitter past.
Forgiveness does not change the past.
It does not condone, excuse,
or declare one not-guilty of wrongdoing.
And it certainly does not delete the memory
or mean reconciliation.
Forgiveness does not justify the deed or the person,
it does not provide God's forgiveness for their actions,
because only God can do that.
God says it is in our own best interest to forgive! God is
not talking about what is in the best interest of the person
who needs to be forgiven. We are the ones who God is
trying to protect. We are the ones who receive the most
benefit from forgiveness, not the other person.
While nothing can undo the past,
by embracing forgiveness,
we can also realize peace of mind,
improved health and well being,
gratitude, and joy.
We can create a new way to remember
and do something about the condition of our own
present and future.
Forgiveness is based on
Forgiving others makes a way for our
own healing to begin.
Forgiving frees up our power and releases us
from a painful burden.
Forgiveness heals our soul.
It sets our mind and spirit free.
Forgiveness opens a pathway
to a new place of peace.
Forgiveness is something that takes place
between the one who has been hurt and God.
our gracious forgiveness to someone...
can be a manipulation to make them feel guilty.
It is also a form of pride.
Forgiveness may not lead to
a healed relationship and it does not mean
what happened was okay
or we need to welcome the person
back in our lives.
Forgiveness is a process,
and yes, we should be cautious of someone
who knew we would be hurt... and they did it anyway,
but in forgiving,
we learn about the heart of God.