Forgiveness means different things 

to different people. 

Generally, forgiveness involves a decision to 

let go of resentment, hostility, negativity,

and thoughts that can have us so wrapped up 

in stinking thinking that we can't enjoy the present.

We are often apprehensive about forgiving 

because we feel that forgiveness means 

we must once again 

expose ourselves to the same toxic, mean-spirited, 

destructive abusers... and trust them again. 

To the contrary... 

forgiveness doesn't mean denying reality.


Forgiveness is not forgetting the harm done to us.

It is not pretending it didn't happen or 

making up with the person and 

erasing the bitter past.

Forgiveness does not change the past.

It does not condone, excuse, 

or declare one not-guilty of wrongdoing. 

And it certainly does not delete the memory 

or mean reconciliation.

Forgiveness does not justify the deed or the person, 

it does not provide God's forgiveness for their actions, 

because only God can do that. 

God says it is in our own best interest to forgive! God is 

not talking about what is in the best interest of the person 

who needs to be forgiven. We are the ones who God is 

trying to protect. We are the ones who receive the most 

benefit from forgiveness, not the other person.

While nothing can undo the past, 

by embracing forgiveness, 

we can also realize peace of mind, 

improved health and well being

gratitude, and joy.

We can create a new way to remember 

and do something about the condition of our own 

present and future. 

Forgiveness is based on 


Forgiving others makes a way for our


own healing to begin.

Forgiving frees up our power and releases us 

from a painful burden.

Forgiveness heals our soul.

It sets our mind and spirit free.

Forgiveness opens a pathway 

to a new place of peace.

Forgiveness is something that takes place 

between the one who has been hurt and God.

Self-righteously announcing 

our gracious forgiveness to someone... 

can be a manipulation to make them feel guilty. 

It is also a form of pride. 

God knows.

Forgiveness may not lead to 

a healed relationship and it does not mean 

what happened was okay 

or we need to welcome the person 

back in our lives. 

Forgiveness is a process, 

and yes, we should be cautious of someone 

who knew we would be hurt... and they did it anyway,

but in forgiving, 

we learn about the heart of God.