Instigators may be driving a wedge,
cutting the ties that bind,
between you and your family.
Who are instigators?
Instigators are those who deliberately stir up trouble.
There is no rhyme, reason, or emotional
understanding with an instigator.
They are toxic, mean-spirited, and empty.
They are inciters, messy agitators, troublemakers,
rabble-rousers, provocateurs, and meddlers
who are notorious and well-practiced at
crazy-making and bullying.
We face an active enemy, every single day, who tries, non-
stop, to manipulate situations, block our progress
(physically, mentally, and spiritually), he tries to hurt us,
destroy us, or if nothing more... leave scars he can
attack at will, so that we become so preoccupied with
pain, disappointment, confusion, and chaos...
that we are left feeling like we've had the life force
sucked out of us.
He wants to gain ground in our lives. Our families
are under attack. Satan's primary goal is to kill, steal,
destroy, divide, set us up to lose, oppress us,
cause a whirlwind of chaos, and wreak havoc.
We can never get so comfortable
and let our guards down.
Let us not be fooled. Satan is a very cunning, unfair,
evil, and deceptive foe.
He wants us to fail; he wants us to quit;
he wants us to stumble, fall, and die.
He wants to render us as losers and
Satan is a thief, a liar, a tempter, a schemer,
he is notorious for twisting the truth,
and seeking to devour us when we are at our weakest
and most vulnerable.
Satan wants nothing more than to enter certain areas
of our lives so he can gain a stronghold.
He will try anything to throw us off center,
distract us from our focus, and render us ineffective
for the Kingdom of God.
Can two people walk together without
agreeing on the direction?
(Amos 3:3 NLT)
We need to know who the enemy is.
Satan is real, alive, crafty, and busy!
and cease trying to deal with the devil
in our own strength.
Depending on God
is basic to the Believers' life.
We trust in and depend on God for our salvation
We depend on God for wisdom (James 1:5).
we depend on God for everything
(Psalm 104:27) and in everything
The psalmist teaches God’s reliability with
the three-fold description
“God is my Rock, my Fortress
and my Deliverer”
God has much to say about Satan's devious schemes.
And though God never tells us to be afraid,
God does tell us to be on guard and to live aware.
We must know his schemes and understand
Satan's battle tactics; otherwise,
he is going to have a field day.
The person we choose to stand with
often indicates the belief we embrace.
"With" and "against" show not just the source,
but position in relationship to Jesus.
Men often will stand with a friend
and without realizing it,
will find themselves standing "against" God
and His Word.
We face an active enemy, every single day,
who is notorious for dividing families.
All Satan needs is to make a hairline fracture
into the foundation of our families.
Once he is able to penetrate the foundation…
it's only a matter of time before the entire structure
starts to crumble.
People who scatter the flock of Jesus
are clearly "against Jesus."
The wicked and divisive may believe that they
have gotten away with their evil, but
God sees all...
and will judge all.
Wicked people may even fool those in authority,
but they cannot fool God.
They will eventually pay... if not in this life,
they will pay in eternity.
Let us ask ourselves this question:
"Is the person we are listening to
scattering or gathering the flock?"
The answer to that question
will indicate the source:
Is it God or Satan?
We may be attacked with lies from people
we would never have believed would do such a thing...
this is how Satan works;
by planting accusations in the minds
on both sides of the divide, he makes communication
and reconciliation difficult.
“These people can’t be trusted,
they can’t be dealt with, they are our enemy,
and they must be fought or avoided.”
They sow suspicion in the name of Satan’s game.
He can usually ground suspicions in facts,
at least partially,
subtly adding assumptions about people’s motives.
Satan knows military doctrine like nobody else,
and one of war’s basics is “Divide and conquer.”
Satan uses his preferred weapon,
the one for which he’s named:
accusation (diabolos, the devil, means accuser).
Anytime a general can divide enemy forces,
he’s in a position to defeat them in detail.
God has a plan for our lives.
The enemy has a plan for us too.
We have to determine which voice
we’re going to listen to,
and who we will choose to follow.
The oldest living brother and I were very close.
In the midst of all of the family drama...
his girlfriend of over 25 years
decided she would express how much she hated me
and couldn’t wait to see me living under a bridge.
She apparently insisted that my brother
no longer communicate with me
and apparently he followed her lead.
So, now there is a wedge between us.
We no longer communicate.
Some people are remarkably susceptible
to suspicious thoughts about others.
They never consider that the accusing voice
in their heads might be Satan.
The Evil One knows which individuals
have immature conflict-management skills.
These self-centered individuals rarely go to people
they harbor suspicions against with a humble spirit
and open mind.
Instead they become bitter and spread their suspicions
to others, often exaggerating for effect.
Divisive people deliberately and aggressively
form cliques of haters who will stand with them.
They contact others with the aim of dividing
and pitting one person against another.
They may even travel from place to place
with the intention of causing division,
unrest, confusion, disharmony,
and all kinds of vile and evil acts.
“Any kingdom divided by civil war is doomed.
A town or family splintered by feuding will fall apart.”
I appeal to you, brothers,
to watch out for those who cause divisions
and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine
that you have been taught; avoid them.
I was floored that my brothers,
knowing and witnessing all of the hours of degradation,
the scars of abuse, and almost two decades of hell
I have gone through, and not even understanding why
these things were happening,
would shrink back into silence and not,
at least empathetically, stand up for truth.
This is baffling.
It is, yet,
another dismal low
in our family dynamics...
to say the least.
My brother who spoke harshly to me
now seems to be needy for acceptance,
from the older brother, and the klan of crabs in the barrel.
He has gone back into the barrel of crabs and
is entertaining those, inside the barrel of crabs,
by gossiping and making unfounded,
slanderous remarks about me, in their presence.
This particular sort of betrayal is, in my opinion,
treacherous and damaging.
It’s as if both older brothers, by their actions and words,
are trying to destroy my reputation
with their slanderous remarks...
and project their pain, fears, and limitations onto me.
They are acting more like dream-stealers,
enthusiasm killers, and bubble bursters.
A perverted heart spreads strife and devises
malicious, vicious, vindictive, and evil scheming...
A perverted heart consciously considers
how to do that which is hurtful to others.
A perverted heart is full of malicious, vicious,
and vindictive scheming.
According to the Scriptures...
such people are an abomination
in God's sight!
Those who perversely scheme
against others in their hearts...
will reap a harvest of woe!
If my two older brothers would be honest...
they would tell the truth and admit that
I’ve been vilified... without cause.
The only sense I can make out of this is that
they would rather quietly sneak back
into the bucket of crabs and not get involved or...
they could be prone to believe absurd things about others
simply because things are told to them.
Whatever it is...
something has been blown way out of proportion...
and has created something much deeper than it is...
was... or should be.
The more they conspire and spread these lies...
the more it is spiraling into this uncontrollable
avalanche of unfounded and hurtful allegations!
I'm still confused about the events leading up to
the relationship breakdowns with my brothers.
I’m trying to make sense out of the nonsense…
to no avail.
Most incredibly, these senior members of my family
have finally caved and have been accepted back
into the bucket of crabs.
It's as if part of the initiation, back into
the bucket of crabs,
is to destroy my character, my zest for life,
and sabotage my desire to walk in my calling.
Don’t they realize they, too...
have a calling on their lives?
Do they not realize that time
is running out?
Every minute someone leaves this
world behind. Time is a limited
resource. We are living years,
months, weeks, days, hours,
minutes, and seconds
that we will never get back...
and breathing air that we will never
breathe in again.
None of us are getting any younger.
Life is very brief, we are just a mist that appears
on the scene for a little while... and then we vanish.
Let us cherish the joys and not leave this life and our
assignments from God... unfinished.
Let us try to live each day to the fullest,
and humbly submit to God's plan and perfect Will.
At all times, in all situations, let us try our level best
to do what we know is right, and live in a way
that won't end in regret.
Life is so brief. We don't have time to make it our
responsibility to interfere or create drama
in the life and affairs of others.
Let us take the time to review and reconnect
with our own truth and inner guidance.
It takes a lifetime to correct and fix ourselves.
Let us take an honest look, at our own life,
to see what we are leaving behind and sending ahead.
When we know who we are and what our purpose is,
in life... we will have no interest
in assuming the wrong lane.
Living in sync with God... leaves a legacy
that will bless instead of burden its recipients.
It will enrich us... I am certain,
People are very quick to judge other people’s
shortcomings and they busy themselves,
to an unwarranted degree, in matters without right
or invitation. These same busybodies are
reluctant to look internally... and evaluate their own
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your
mouths, but only what is helpful for building others
up according to their needs, that it may benefit those
Just because there are no visible signs of scarring doesn't
mean that one has not been wounded.
Let us always remember...
God holds us responsible for the pain we cause.
It is very disappointing to see these men,
whom I looked up to and respected,
have nothing to share with the world other than
devilish gossip, lies, and pettiness.
I don’t understand what any of them have to gain
in being so hurtful and negative.
I am reminded, however, that the means that man takes to
kill the character of another... becomes suicide of his own.
No one has ever attempted to wrong another
without being injured in return.
In the Sermon On The Mount Jesus was quite specific
about dealing with difficult people in love and humility:
“But I tell you who hear Me: