Family is a group of one or more parents and


their children living together as a unit. 


household consists of one or several persons 


who live in the same dwelling and share meals. 


It may also consist of a single family or another 


group of people.

 Family, as a socially recognized group (usually


 joined by blood, marriage, cohabitation, or adoption)


 that forms an emotional connection and serves as an


 economic unit of society. Sociologists identify 


different types of families based on how one enters 


into them. A family of orientation refers to the family


into which a person is born. A family of procreation


 describes one that is formed through marriage. 


These distinctions have cultural significance related


 to issues of lineage.


Drawing on two sociological paradigms, the 


sociological understanding of what constitutes a 


family can be explained by symbolic interactionism 


as well as functionalism. These two theories indicate


 that families are groups in which participants


 view themselves as family members and act


 accordingly. 


In other words, families are groups in which people


 come together to form a strong primary group 


connection and maintain emotional ties to one 


another over a long period of time.


Our families raise, maintain, and pass on to each


 succeeding generation the values we share and 


treasure, values that are the foundation of our 


God-given and constitutional rights.

Family, is believed to be the oldest


 and most needed institution in


existence.


The family is the foundational institution of 

human society, ordained by God

Genesis 2:20-25, 4:1, Exodus 20:5-6, 

Joshua 7:10,15,24-25, 2 Kings 13:23

Families create generations.

 Families perform vital roles for society, both internally 


(for the family) and externally (for society). 


Families provide for one another’s physical, 


emotional, and social well-being.

At its best, the family carries out a wide range 


of invaluable undertakings for its members. Perhaps 


most importantly, family supports each member's 


emotional and psychological safe keeping, especially 


through the kindness, mutual affection, compassion, 


goodwill, camaraderie, solidarity, and love.

Family is essential for the very building of our 

character. Family cares for and teaches us our first

 lessons in everything, be it responsibility, mercy, 

grace, compassion, charity, understanding, kindness, 

leniency, socializing children and instilling in children 

to let go of petty fights and care for one another.


A family has an unbreakable bond, that can be 


challenged, but never severed. No matter how 


difficult the times are, our true family will be 


there, in mind, body and/or spirit.


Family values represent the core values and 


guidelines that parents and family members hold


 in high regard for the well-being of the family. 

To be a part of a family is a beautiful phenomenon.

 

 It's where we and our voices matter. 



Family has the ability to bring joy to our hearts 


as soon as we see them. Being in the midst of 


our true family gives us a sense of tenderness, 


respect, warmth, appreciation, love and


 belonging, which we all desire. 



The word "family" implies unselfish, genuine 


affection, consideration, and care for others. 


family doesn’t necessarily mean our parents, 


our siblings or our immediate blood relatives. 

Family is not only about who we birth… it’s who 

God puts into our lives. This is a brotherhood and 

sisterhood which transcends blood relations, race, 

age, or nationality. 

Whether a biological family or an extended family


 of people, though unrelated by birth or marriage,


 we are individuals drawn to each other based on


 who we are as God's offspring. A sister or brother


 in Christ... is who we are as God’s offspring. 

Family is the cornerstone of our society. Family 


is the basis, the backbone, the foundation, the 


infrastructure, and root of our civilization... the


 bedrock from which all other communities


 and nations stem from.

The benefits of living in a family are more 


important than ever. Healthy families produce


 people who make positive contributions to 


the community. This includes minors, the 


elderly and disabled, or simply those who can't


afford to live by themselves. 


Basic needs such as food, water, shelter, and 


clean air are accessible when one or more members

can combine resources to pay bills and manage their 


money to ensure that financial necessities are 


always taken care of. They are able to have each 


other's back.

When family members are under pressure, 


someone close to them is most likely to see the


 expressions, signs, and clues that they are in an


 "Eleventh hour" mode. 



People may hide their problems with outsiders, 


but their family almost always recognizes that there is 


an issue, they usually understand, and are ready to 


assist, no strings attached. 

Our children live and learn best through their 


everyday observations and experiences of and 


with the people they love and trust. 


In a world or situation where everything is 


perfect, family would be those related 


individuals and that safe and secure place of love, 


where there is a true sense of belonging, a refuge, 


a retreat, shelter, built in support system, and place 


of comfort.

There are many families who 


intentionally focus on 


producing productive citizens. 

 

These families nurture, love, work together, and 


spend quality time and energy supporting each 


other through difficult times and sharing one 


another's burdens. These families are supportive 


and encouraging. They listen, counsel, and


 console their members.

Getting someone as pure as a little child to trust


 you is easy. What makes it hard is to maintain that 


trust as they grow up. That means their secrets 


should remain secrets, no matter how silly they 


may seem. That means you should be able to make


 time to hear them out.



 This also means being able to trust your child to 


tell the truth, no matter how iffy things may 


seem. Parents have the primary responsibility 


and God-given authority to teach and prepare their 


children for the tough future they may have to face. 

It is the parents’ duty to rebuke as well as reform. 


Every relationship blossoms on the basis of trust. 


If your child begins to trust you fully and 


completely at an early stage, the odds are, 


they’ll still be that connected to you in their 


teenage stage.



Parents are responsible for their children's 

general education. 

Galatians 4:1-2

Parents are responsible for their children's 

spiritual and theological education. 

Deuteronomy 6:6-9, Proverbs 1:7

One of the most important ways parents contribute


 to society is by educating their children. Teaching 


them good manners, and taking advantage of 


learning opportunities in basic life skills in their 


daily lives. The learning doesn't go just one way, 


either. 


In a healthy family, learning has a high priority.


 Many families contribute to society by working


 to ensure that their family gets the best possible,


 well-rounded educational opportunities. 

Children enjoy a healthy lifestyle when they live 


in a healthy family. Some researchers have provided 


evidence to support their claims that people, who


 live with children in their family, tend to live longer.

Since God’s purpose spans the generations, our mission 


should be to help our children to develop a relationship 


with God by talking about God and explaining, as soon as 


they are able to comprehend, God's instructions on how to 


live. Wherever and whenever there is a window of 


opportunity... we need to seize the moment.

We have a sacred duty to rear our children in love and 


righteousness. We must equip our children, spiritually, so 


they will be able to navigate, stay on course, and have the

 highest and most fulfilling life.


Our goal as parents should be to endeavor to pass down


our faith to the next generation in such a way that they 


will be able to pass down their faith to future generations.


Our role and privilege is to model, with pure truthfulness,


what we have in our relationship with God. Our children 


yearn to see the reality of who God is in the natural flow 


of our lives.



Our children need to see that faith matters, that it is 


relevant to our daily situations, and that it is honest.


Children watch our actions, and they need to witness, 

firsthand, that our faith is not merely something we 

exhibit when it is convenient to do so. 


  
There's no need to preach... just let it flow. When the 

conversations and our actions are born from a deep 

and abiding relationship that we ourselves have built 

with God and are maintaining... the words will flow 

and minister to us as well. Everyone is blessed when 

we make talking about God a natural part of our 

conversation and teach by godly examples. 


We cannot afford to relegate spiritual discussions 


to a Sunday morning service, only... especially 


when God's grace and mercy are both available... 


24-7!



Our goal should be to help our children/family 

to desire to know the Source of our joy and fall 

in love with God.

We can raise up godly generations, not only through 


our children, but also through our children's children.


It begins in our homes...


with us as the teachers.

One of the most important purposes of the family is to 


impart a godly heritage. Family should teach our children 


well... filling our communities, cities, states, countries, 


the entire universe with God-fearing, decent, fair, honest, 


upright, morally mature, emotionally sound and respectful,


 Spirit-filled, righteous, productive citizens who will not 


have to recover from their childhood, but will in turn... 


teach and raise a godly heritage when they become 


parents.



God’s desire is that families concentrate on building 


character and a godly spirit into their children. God's


desire is that we would extend a godly heritage throughout 


our family and future generations.


God has designed the family as the first source of spiritual 


training and preparation for life.


The family should provide the physical, emotional, social, 


economic, and spiritual needs of its members so that they 


can become productive and useful for God and His work 


in the earth.


Every family has a specific God-given calling 


and purpose to fulfill.


The family must impart and 


perpetuate their experiential 


knowledge of God.



The family must impart the qualities that 


enable memberto rise to their fullest potential.

The concepts of love, acceptance of others, morality, 


peace, justice, mercy, and self-denial for the good of 


others, are learned best within the structure of a God-


fearing family.

If the family, for any reason, is
 
prevented from producing people

 who possess these special qualities,

the whole society suffers.

The bedrock of all societies, a haven 


in a heartless world, the birthplace of 


passion, the most reliable unit in 


society should be the family.


Too little love tears at 



family harmony. 


Based on our research, of recently released 


data, over 26 percent of Americans are estranged


 from a member of their own family. Research 


discloses that roughly 42 percent of Americans


 have experienced estrangement, at some point. 


It appears that the most common form of 


estrangement is between adult children and


 one or both parents.

Although most regard family as their most gratifying 


aspect of life, they also regard it as their most difficult 


to understand. People seem to be more strained, 


frazzled, tensed, stressed, and losing touch with each 


other. The family is changing, and sad to say, not for 


the better. Sadly, many families are operating, being 


consumed, and divided by ongoing differences of 


opinion, unnecessary squabbles, and conflicts of 


interest.

Dysfunctional and abusive homes with little or no 


relational connection where there is a lack of 


communication, little or no quality time together, 


no respect for one another, no boundaries, 


emotional and physical scars, a lack of nurturing 


or encouragement,


left to themselves... 


can produce dysfunctional children who in turn


 pollute our society.



Our children will never live right...


if we do not lead right.



As a family, we should have core values that


 we live by. We should lovingly teach our 


children to imbibe these core values.


Virtue, integrity, initiative, respect, and love


 are examples of what we should pour into


our children and in any society. 



Emotions like love for God, unspeakable joy,


 peace, care, kindness, and other positive, 


God-like qualities 


are what we should be passing on to our 


children.

It was God’s intention for these positive attributes


 to be nurtured and maintained through the 


relationships and interconnectedness of the 


human family.


God designed into human beings a need and


 desire for positive, loving relationships.

 


Some family members are 


spirituallstarving to death.

Without family, that successful 


entrepreneur may become that inmate.

That genius may become a dope dealer.

That great scientist, aircraft mechanic, architect, 


teacher, preacher, CEO, chef, conductor, officer, 


consultant, financial advisor, manager, lawyer, 


editor, paramedic, developer, college grad, intern,


 producer, nurse, writer, actor, accountant, mom, 


dad, student or florist, could become that homeless


 person searching for crumbs to eat.

One can suffer untold damage 


without family interconnections.

Unfortunately, for some, the very people they look to for 


love and affection are the ones who have wounded them


 most. Sometimes the ones who are quick to wound us are


members of our own family.



Some family members can be super-critical, quick to find 


problems, and/or faults, they tell cutting jokes that are put 


downs (at another family member's expense) leaving deep 


and painful wounds which can last a lifetime. 


Many family members have watched their parents,


children, siblings, and spouses go to the graves 


commenting...


"We never really talked,"



or "I never really knew him/her."


Far too many families know what the other does, 


but they do not know each other. Too many are 


searching for significance through mundane 


activities; yet, in the midst of it all...


they have lost the significance 


of what they were designed to be...


a member of the highest institution


 in the entire universe...

When the families' foundation


 crumbles, eventually nations will.

Today, in our easy going, accommodating society, we're


 faced with tremendous family issues. Many families are 


confused and scattered. Many children don't experience 


healthy parent, child relationships. Unfortunately, many 


parents don't feel the need to be committed parents.


There is an overflow of teen rebellion, child abuse,


spousal violence, alcoholism, and other devastating 


problems which are robbing families of their happiness.


What should be that safe haven of security 


for every man, woman, and child has become


 or has been more of a living hell.

Our families need to feel safe, no matter how

trouble-filled the outside world may be. 

They need to know that if they get sick, 

family has their back and will care for them. 

They need to know if they have problems with peer

 pressure, school, or work they can 

go to family and get sage, godly advice 

and support.

A strong family is one that sustains its 

members. A strong family supports and 

nourishes the members throughout the span 

of that family. A strong family unit creates 

and cultivates a safe, positive, and a 

supportive place for all members to not 

only survive, but thrive!

Strong families create environments 

that allow children to not only hear God's Word, 

but also to put God's Word into practice. 

A strong family will utilize their resources and 

live together in a fairly healthy manner. A 

strong family sincerely seeks God every day, 

asking God to reveal His plan for them.

The adults in a strong family understand

 the importance of setting the tone for a 

peaceful and loving environment. 

They understand the importance of being 

good role models and leading by positively 

good examples.

Good families inscribe: 

good morals, values, spirituality, love, 

self-respect, acceptance of others, placing 

a high value on life, mercy, justice, peace, and

 dignity on the hearts and minds of their members. 

High self-esteem and respect comes from positively 

good family environments and experiences. 

In order for our society to eliminate crime, violence,

 and other societal ills...each household must cultivate

 environments for our children's faith, in God, to grow. 

These special qualities and concepts are learned best

 within the structure of a strong family. 

We must come to realize that a strong identity 

in Christ will guide all of our choices in ways 

that we as parents, in our own strength, simply 

cannot.

May we help our children fall in love with 

Jesus and teach our children how to cultivate a

love relationship with God as we cultivate our 

own. May we live our lives authentically in front 

of our family members so that they become 

eyewitnesses to our own transformation. Most

 importantly, we must pray that God's Spirit 

will transform our children into His likeness. 

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