A tragic loss can be one of the most difficult
experiences one will encounter during the
course of life. The feelings of grief is the
normal and natural reaction to loss or change
of any kind.
The death of a close or loved one is sure to leave
one shattered and having mixed feelings or
emotions. When this tragic event happens to
someone close, it is bound to be accompanied
by a great deal of intensely agonizing sorrow
For most people who have experienced a loss, the
immediate and direct emotions they feel, when
that person dies, are tremendous sadness and
Dealing with death is a life experience that no one
wants to face. No one knows the deep ache and/or
numbness one can experience when they lose a
“Grief only exists where
love lived first.”
– Franchesca Cox
Nothing hurts more than the death of someone
you care about. The pain inside can feel as if
our soul will crumble under the weight of this
overwhelming, paralyzing grief.
intense sorrow, grief, regret, numbness, disbelief,
When we are navigating the deep waters of
sorrow and loss, we may wonder how a loving
God could allow such a painful thing to happen.
We generally conceal our pain from the outside
world, wrapping it in a secret mantle of silence.
This causes sorrow to linger unexpressed in our
bodies, weighing us down and dragging us into the
realms of depression and/or destruction. Some
people have come to fear grief and feel too alone
to face the powerful energies of sorrow. Grief quite
often bleeds into denial and/or anger.
Grief is when you have the desire to place a phone call,
then realizing, that loved one is no longer there.
We all express grief in different ways.
The range of normal grief is vast and often
related to an individual’s circumstances.
Let us not allow the world to put some
arbitrary time limit on our grief.
Allowance must be made so that our grief
may be fully experienced and processed
in its own time.
There are wounds in life that can be overcome...
transformed through hard self-work.
Grief is NOT one of them.
Healing takes both time and focus. We can put
off the pain, but we can't avoid it. We have to
give ourselves permission to sit in the discomfort
and pain. We must give ourselves permission to
mourn, lament, sob, and weep as if it were our
Our pain is typically relative to our love. So, we
must allow ourselves to be sorrowful, our loved
one has been separated from us. Let us take time
to talk with God about it.
Grief is unpredictable, affecting each of us in slightly
different ways. Let us give ourselves permission to
cry, weep, and feel sad!
Healing takes both time and focus.
Grief, like love, is a powerful emotion that each
of us feels differently. Grief does not require a
solution any more than love does. Grief caused
by the death of a loved one cannot be fixed
because the cause of the grief cannot be fixed.
Someone who was once present has left -
that is an unchangeable fact.
Because grief is normal,
it cannot be deactivated.
Grief, like love, is a strong emotion that each
of us will experience differently. Grief does not
require a quick fix any more than love does.