Every young person's future is full of possibilities. As
parents, we have the incredible privilege of cultivating,
shaping, and directing our children's hearts to God!
Are we teaching our children the way of wisdom and life,
or are we instilling in them the way of folly and death?
Family life is changing, and so, too, is the role mothers
and fathers play. We are witnessing an increase of
single-parent or primary parent systems.
The normal childhood experience of over 61 percent
of today's youth is to live with only one parent and/or
spend part of their lives in a single parent family.
Single-parent families can be defined as families where
a dependent child or children lives with one parent.
In the latter half of the twentieth century, the number of
single-parent families increased rapidly and dramatically.
Some have utilized this shift to suggest that we are
witnessing the collapse of the family. According to others,
this disintegration is harmful to children, families, and our
Others argue that single-parent families are not necessarily
abnormal or problematic, but rather a different form of
family. Regardless of how one views family diversity, the rise
and stability of single-parent households has a significant
impact on the social, economic, and political conditions of
Mothers and fathers frequently bring distinct strengths and
parenting techniques to their positions. These roles should
complement each other for healthy child rearing.
Fathers impact their children in large part because of the
strength of their relationship with their children's mother.
Mothers and fathers who have their children's best interests
at heart can bring unique strengths to their relationships with
Children with both a mother and a father can benefit
from extra attention... as well as a wide range of
We will never be perfect parents, but when God is in the forefront of all of our
affairs... there is nothing we can do, on our own, that will have a higher return.
God provides the skills needed for managing the home and our families.
helps families thrive, and the benefits extend beyond generational!
May we always keep God at the forefront
of all of our affairs. We can succeed...
when God leads us.
Young people see how Mom and Dad rely on God in their
trials and will remember how God saved them. The faith of
parents in God's sufficiency will have a tremendous influence
on their children. When faced with decisions in the future,
children will have those examples of faith and trust in God to
help guide them.
Our Father's love is
consistent and unwavering.
Children will be drawn to God when they realize the
unchangeable nature of God's love through the example
of their parents. We also want our family to also see Jesus
in us in the privacy of our own home.
Children actually learn from their parents' disagreements.
Children learn that calm often follows storms when their
parents exchange heated words, but later resolve their
differences peacefully. If we show forgiveness, patience,
and acceptance, our children will expect to see the same
traits in God.
Negative behaviors or examples, as well as consistent
harshness, busyness, or emotional neglect affect a child's
picture of God.
Children learn from their surroundings. Regardless of
gender, both parents should teach their children to be
honest, responsible, trustworthy, and polite.
There are differences in parental play styles. Young guys
can learn a lot about life from a single mother. Mothers are
usually the ones who teach their children about God, good
manners, respect for elders, etc.
Women can raise a fine man by far, but as quiet as some would
like to keep it, there are certain masculine attributes, such as
teaching a child how to be a genuine man, that women cannot
A remarkably clear phenomenon is taking place in terms of
our children's perspective of authoritative adults. The mother
is usually the major authority role at home. The majority of
the teachers and churchgoers are female. Women have been
compelled to fill roles that some males have completely
abandoned, producing voids and identity crises for everyone
Raising a child without visible male role models at home, school,
and other important sites can leave our youngsters feeling empty and
defenseless. In their efforts to fill this unexplained emptiness, they
grow curious... sometimes about gang culture and street masculinity,
which could lead them into criminality.
The involvement, support, and connection
of a father to his children has been
linked to safer, more positive surroundings
The presence of a father
is crucial to the
well-being of his child.
Children who have involved, caring fathers
are much more likely to do well in school,
have positive self-esteem, and avoid
high-risk behaviors like drug use, truancy,
and criminal activity.
Dads occupy a unique and vital role in the lives of their children.
They serve a unique and critical function in nurturing and directing
the development of children. Many experts now believe fathers can
be as nurturing and sensitive to their children as mothers are.
Fathers take on additional tasks as their children grow, encouraging
their children's intellectual and social development. Even when a parent
is 'just playing' with his children, he is fostering their development.
Children who have involved fathers tend to be more academically,
developmentally, and socially sound.
Numerous research have come to the same conclusion:
children with involved fathers have a social and academic edge
over children with distant or no interactions with their fathers.
Another study discovered that elementary school children who
had solid bonds to their fathers during infancy performed better
on tests of empathy, or the ability to see a situation from another
person's perspective. These children recognized how other
children were feeling and took steps to make them feel better.
When fathers are connected with their children, the children
appear to have fewer discipline issues. The involvement of the
father is beneficial to the children.
Numerous studies show that children with fathers who ask about
what they learned in school and their day-to-day social activities
and connections perform better in school than children who do not
have that kind of feedback or interest.
The earthly father is a child's
first image of God.
Fathers are much more than just another adult in the household.
Involved fathers provide great benefits to their children that no
other individual can bring to the table. Children who have an
involved father in their lives are more likely to be emotionally
It should be noted that a father figure does not have to be a biological
father for children to benefit. It could be an adopted father, stepfather,
or uncle in the family. When fathers are more active with their children,
it benefits everyone.
Some of our children are wandering aimlessly because someone has
failed to provide them with their history... their bridges to the world. The
bond of an extended family, friends, and teammates becomes very powerful
It also explains why some adolescents join gangs. They want to belong,
even if it's wrong.
We all have a profound desire to feel
like we are a part of something
greater than ourselves.
This need includes people, places, and possessions. Our instinct
for belonging, for being wanted, accepted, enjoyed, and loved by
close ones is extremely powerful!
Fathers and mothers provide possibilities for their children by
connecting them with a large network that includes grandparents,
aunts and uncles, cousins, and family friends.
Our children must understand their genuine worth and purpose.
To avoid creating indecent tendencies in boys, we must teach
our daughters to dress modestly. Parents must keep an eye on
their children's clothing on a regular basis. Men should be
explaining why this is so vital... to their family members.
Furthermore, we must teach our sons to step back when they
see inappropriate things that may inspire unsafe sexual
thoughts and/or conduct.
When our children are young, parents should begin sowing
little seeds. This is something we want our children to grasp
before they start forming emotional or physical attachments.
The battle for purity takes place in our minds and what we put into
our brains. What we allow into our minds is what we allow into our
bodies through our senses. What we see and hear will create images and
thoughts in our minds.
We must monitor what enters our children's minds (through their eyes
and ears). Keep an eye on what our children are viewing on TV, doing
on the internet, and reading. We will have to intentionally set safeguards
and boundaries, and give "a boat load" of instructions in this area.
The battle is real, parents. To educate our children about abstaining will
require some time and work on our part, but it will be well worth it!
Nothing keeps us on our toes and knees
Deuteronomy 32:46, "And He said unto them,
Set your hearts on all the words which I testify among you this day,
which ye shall tell your children to do, all the words of this law."
Deuteronomy 6:6-7, "And these words, which I command thee this
day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto
thy children, and shall talk of them when thou sit in thine house,
and when thou walk by the way, and when thou lie down,
and when thou rise up."
Regardless of the label we wear parent, teacher, neighbor, or aunt...
we have the opportunity every day to be the best version of
ourselves and share that with the children in our world.
May we let the children in our world witness us modeling
appropriate behavior. May we commit to pray daily with and
for our children.
May we provide a safe haven, where our children's questions are
answered and their doubts can change to faith and certainty.
May we send them out to reflect God in their daily lives.
"What a sweet reward it is for parents to hear adult
children say, "We are grateful for the way you all raised
us and all of the life lessons that we were taught."
God intended for parents to be the primary caregivers for their children.
Although none of us are ideal parents, we can all be praying parents!
Prayer is our highest privilege as parents, and and prayers can cover
We believe divine guidance and inspiration can leave a rich heritage for
our children, grandchildren, and future generations.
We will know that our lives mattered as we pass the baton to the next
runner... because we are consciously leaving the world a better place...
for future generations.